A Dose of Girly Prose Written by a Guy: Quotes from He’s Just Not that into You!

Bonjour Blog! I am still in my cave, but I am already teeming with insights. So to help stave off the overflow a little, here’s this one post where I will just paste all my favorite quotes from Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo’s book entitled He’s Just Not that into You! I have been trying to get a copy of the suitable sequel for this book entitled You are not that into Him Either but I failed. LOL. This book, I think, should be in every dating woman’s bedside table. I don’t agree with all the principles, but I am posting some memorable lines here for mental safekeeping.

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“There’s nothing worse than having no answer, in business, friendships, and especially romantic relationships. But the bad news is, no answer is your answer. He may not have written you a good-bye He’sJustNotThatIntoYou note, but his silence is a deafening see you later.”

“Don’t confuse being classy with being a doormat. Classy is walking away with your head held high, graciously, and with dignity. Being a doormat is offering to drive him to the dentist for his root canal.”

“There’s a guy out there who’s going to be really happy that you didn’t get back together withyour crappy ex-boyfriend.”

Wasting time with the wrong person is just time wasted. And when you do move on and find your right person, believe me, you’re not going to wish you had gotten to spend more time with Stinky the Time-Waster or Freddy Can’t-Remember-to-Call.”

“100% of guys polled said “a fear of intimacy” has never stopped them from getting into arelationship. One guy even remarked, “Fear of intimacy is an urban myth.” Another guy said,“That’s just what we say to girls when we’re just not that into them.””

“When this dude tells you he loves you and that he hopes you never lose touch again, he may as well be signing your yearbook. He loves you as a friend. If he were in love with you,he wouldn’t be able to help himself from getting involved in a romantic relationship regardless of his fear or past experiences.”

“If a dude isn’t calling you when he says he will, or making sure you know that he’s dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him, his actions are screaming the truth: He’s just not that into you.”

“Men, just like women, want to feel emotionally protected when a relationship starts to become serious.One way they do that is by laying claim to it. They actually want to say “I’m your boyfriend” or “I’d liketo be your boyfriend” or “If you ever break up with that other guy who’s not your boyfriend, I’d like tobe your boyfriend.” A man who’s really into you is going to want you all to himself. And why wouldn’the, hot stuff?”

“Are there men who are too busy or have been through something so horrible that makes it hard for them to get involved? Yes, but there are so few of them that they should be considered urban legends. For as already suggested, a man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you that he’s just not that into you.”

“People are inspired to do remarkable things to find and be with the one they love.Big movies are made about it, and every relationship you admire bursts with a greatness that you hope for in your own life. And the more you value yourself, the more chance you’ll have of getting it.”

“If we’re really excited about someone, we can’t stop ourselves—we want more. If we’re friends with someone and attracted tothem, we’re going to want to take it further. And please, don’t tell me he’s just “scared.” The only thing he’s scared of—and I say this with a lot of love—is how not attracted to you he is.”

“If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away.”

“Men, for the most part, like to pursue women. We like not knowing if we can catch you. We feel rewarded when we do. Especially when the chase is a long one.”

Beware of the word “friend.” It can often be used by men or the women that love them to excuse the most unfriendly behavior. Personally, when I’m picking friends, I like the ones who don’t make me crymyself to sleep.”

“An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of ‘ruining the friendship’… If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.”

If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.

“For the record, a man who likes you wants to spend time with you. And he’ll only settle for talking to you on the phone five times a day when he physically can’t get on a plane to come see you.”

When you like someone, they don’t just slip your mind.”

“Calling when you say you’re going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love andtrust. If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna to have a house,baby. And it’s cold outside.”

“The thing about that cool girl is that she still gets her feelings hurt. She still has reactions to how she’sbeing treated. She still hopes he’ll call, wonders when she’ll get to see him again, and if he’s excited about being with her. I hate that.”

“If you’re tempted to spend countless nights just cuddling with someone, buy a puppy.”

“Regardless of his dislike for talking on the phone, he should respect and care for you enough to call you, if only because he knows that it will make you happy.”

“LOVE CURES COMMITMENT PHOBIA…. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married. You shouldn’t feel ashamed, needy, or “unliberated” for wanting that. So make sure from the start that you pick a guy who shares your views for the future, and if not, move on as quickly as you can.”

“The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact, in every silo you uncover, all you’re going to find is a man who didn’tcare enough to call. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want.”

…a picture of what you’ll never see when you’re with a guy who’s really into you: You’ll never see you staring maniacally at your phone, willing it to ring. You’ll never see you ruining an evening with friends because you’re calling for your messages every fifteen seconds. You’ll never see you hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn’t have. Whatyou will see is you being treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary. You’ll be too busy being adored.

“And women are smart. If they really got quiet and stopped listening to theexcuses, or believing what they wanted to be true and what they hope he’s really saying, and just got allcentered about it, I think women would always know. They’ll always know the difference between a man who truly has issues with marriage but is deeply committed to the relationship and them, and a guy who’s just being a weenie.”

“Yes, breakups are painful, even fromsomeone you may have only dated a few times. You may have been really excited about him and had alot of hopes for the future. But how empowering to have the mental clarity to say, “He just wasn’t that into me.” Can you imagine that girl in the future? Nothing will be able to stop her!”

 

I’m not ready. This is the most often used excuse in the world, but it always seems to do the trick. Women love waiting around for men to be ready. You women must enjoy it, because you do it so muchof the time. Which is ironic to me, since you’re the ones with the biological clocks that are supposedly ticking away. Listen, we all know that couple who’s been dating for five years…eight years and still hasn’t gotten married. We know it never works out well for that couple. So how about you stop waiting—and start looking for that guy who can’t wait to love you.”

From this moment on, right now, as you read this, make this solemn vow about your future romantic relationships: no more murky, no more gray, no more unidentified, and no more undeclared.

“Being lonely, being alone, for many people, sucks. I get it, I get it, I get it. But still I have to say that, yes,my true belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn’t honor the person you are, is worse.”

“Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.”

 

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“Hey, Hot Stuff,

Can’t wait till you get over that guy you were with. He sounds like a real jerk. Hope it’s soon. You’re way too tasty to be alone for too long. Come find me. I’m out here waiting.

Your Future”

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I shall return after I have spent enough time on my female cave! Thanks for friends who have been visiting this blog. I will visit you all back as soon as I get done with my cave mode. Much love from my PC to yours! 😀

Hello Future! 🙂